Chrysta Horwedel


Suggestions, Opinions and Control

Stepfamily life doesn’t feel natural. It’s a blending of individuals who wouldn’t be navigating family life together. It is undefined, yet we have biological roles to play. Some fall into the roles easier than others and some never do. For us stepmoms, we try to find our way through this […]

Smiling Stepmom Thinking

Stepmom kissing the sun

Light at the End of the Tunnel

You probably feel like there are days that you are alone and that no one could possibly understand what your life is like. That you’ve stopped complaining about the little things and just go through the motions. You wonder if you’ll ever be seen or if your opinion really matters. […]


Living in the Shadow

You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. It’s part of being human. In your stepfamily, you may feel more of the extremes than anywhere else in your life. Some days you will feel like you are the queen of the world and […]

Stepmom Thinking

Child giving flowers to stepmom

Mothering Day

Mother’s Day is coming up and I have lovely memories of celebrating my grandmother and mother on this special day. These women graciously and selflessly mothered me in many ways and they deserved to be recognized, at least, on this one day carved out for them. I would put on […]


Journey to a Happy Heart

I recently asked the question on social media what words people associate with stepfamily, stepmom and step kids. It is incredible to me the number of negative word associations with these phrases. Words came up like the other, difficult, adjustment, wicked, evil, different decisions, scary but fun, would I do […]

Stepmom drawing a heart in the sand

Stepfamily hugging

Your Unique Stepfamily

Just hearing the word stepfamily, or worse, stepmother can cause people to immediately respond by saying: “I’m sorry, that must be so hard for you.” Without much thought, there is judgement already happening before knowing too much about your family. In my experience, this is generally from someone who has […]