Cheryl Mefferd


Parental Alienation: Our Grief Has a Name

They didn’t die, but there are days I think it might’ve been easier. At least we’d have closure, a definite ending, something.  Instead, we’re grieving children that made a million memories here in this home, under that tree in our front yard who now live down the street and have new […]

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5 Way to Support Someone Experiencing Parental Alienation

Chances are, right now you know someone experiencing parental alienation and don’t know it.  If you’ve never heard of it, consider yourself lucky.  Parental alienation is a form of emotional abuse that tears away at the very core of the relationship between parent and child.  Those going through it feel out of control, […]


What Two Ducks Taught Me About Motherhood

I never had my own children. They were my children.  The ones I laughed with and played with.  The ones I baked for and made new holiday traditions with. I was never going to birth my own children.  It was never going to be in the cards. So I made the most of it. […]


Parental Alienation Court Hearing

How Well-Meaning Community Professionals Assist in Parental Alienation

Recently, I was reminded of why I hate talking about parental alienation. A 30–minute session with the benefits rep at work left me feeling victimized and helpless all over again. Questions that ensued from such a simple interaction like –Did you call the police? or Why didn’t you call DFS?– left me feeling deflated and left her convinced that I’m not only crazy but also most likely a child […]


Grieving for My Parentally Alienated Husband

The phone rang. It was early in the morning on April 5th, 2004.  I was on Highway 1 headed to Watsonville to return shorts to Target before church.  I’d been working a hospital contract in Santa Cruz for several weeks.  I remember it like it was yesterday. Before I even answered the phone, […]

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Parental Alienation Concept

We Stopped Fighting Parental Alienation and Walked Away

Somewhere along the way, we made a conscious choice to preserve ourselves. To cut them loose. To let them go. For good. No more war. No more deceit. No more what ifs. Just gone. It was freeing. And painful. And soul wrenching. And there are days I can’t begin to […]


Parental Alienation Fallout

At the ripe age of 5-years-old, I announced to my mother that I would never birth my own children.  Fast forward thirty-nine years and turns out, I was right.  This year would have been my tenth year being the stepmother to Lyle, Mariam and Katherine.  Unfortunately, despite my husband and […]

Parental Alienation Concept