Monthly Archives: June 2020


When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]

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Woman Thinking

Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]


Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


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Why Your Intimate Relationship Is the Foundation for Your Stepfamily Success

Stepfamily success relies on the strength of the step-couple. According to Susan Wisdom, who wrote “Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family”, the success of the stepcouple relies on how well the couple connects, communicates, co-parents in their own home. How well the couple clarifies how […]


Madrastra – The Evil Stepmother in Latino Culture

At the beginning of my relationship with my husband, he told me not to use the word ‘madrastra’ (stepmother, in Spanish) because it sounded ‘really bad’. Never did I think to look it up in a dictionary until now, 7 years later. What I found shocked me so much that […]

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Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]


“I Didn’t Sign Up for This!” Six Tips for Step-Parenting During a Pandemic

I’m writing this from the corner of my closet, wedged between shoes and a stack of purses, trying to keep the laptop from sliding off my knees as I reposition the suitcase currently digging into my back. I’m sitting in this unusual location because I’ve discovered it’s the only place […]

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