Monthly Archives: August 2019


What Is (And Isn’t) Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS is one of the most incorrectly used terms in the step-family world. It’s a word that can often send court-appointed officials running for the hills, or rolling their eyes so far back in the heads their eyes get whiplash. Why is this term so widely […]


Why Kids Should Not Be in Charge of the Visitation Schedule

Permissive parenting is something  I see a lot in the step-family dynamic. It’s custodial parents who think children should get to dictate to schedule, it’s non-custodial parents who are too scared to set boundaries. It’s when kids are put in the driving seat of the decision making in the family […]


From the File of Difficult Conversations: Planning Family Vacations

Among my stepmom files is a folder labeled “Difficult Conversations.” It’s one of those expandable file folders and, just over four years in, it’s already overflowing. This folder could also be aptly named, “Surprise! Stepparenting is Hard!” because (a) it is, and (b) this, somehow, still surprises me. Despite a […]

Family Vacation

The Chores of Self-Care

It seems counter-intuitive to lump chores and self-care in the same sentence, right?!? Isn’t self-care about fun, luxury, the chocolate cake in the bath? What is fun or luxurious about chores? For a long time I thought self-care was about indulgence. Indulging my wounded child, not doing the things that […]


Digging Deeper into Forgiveness

For this blog, I thought that I would dig deeper into the Magic 7 from a previous blog of mine. In particular, I want to take a look at the last 2 points:  Learning to repair and letting it go. Here’s what I said in the last post on the two […]

Woman Thinking About Forgiveness