Monthly Archives: January 2017


Stepmums: Signs You May Need to Call Time on Befriending Your Partner’s Ex

So, you’ve started dating a guy who has children with his ex. Evidently, you want your stepmum journey to be as plain sailing as possible, and this means attempting to get along with your stepchildren and even your partner’s ex. Now, when I mention the word ‘befriend’, I don’t mean […]

Stepmum and ex shaking hands

Stepfamily trying to blend their families together

The Ugly Truth about Blended Families

Last night, as we settled into bed with a glass of wine, Gabe shared that Caden had recently hurt his feelings.  He’d planned an outing he thought Caden would like, and Caden’s response hadn’t met his expectations.  It was one of a long list of disappointments my sweet husband had suffered this […]


Stepmom Hiding Her Face

Dealing with Emotionally Abusive People

In the stepmom role, I’ve encountered a significant increase in dealing with emotionally abusive people. Researching these types of people has helped me to step back and see these people for who they truly are, without getting emotionally sucked into their hell. I am able to see their cycle of […]


Surviving the Stepdaughter War

My stepdaughter Amy is eleven, and has a war raging within her.  It surfaced this weekend. “That’s not how mom makes potatoes,” she told me as I slid the roasting pan into the oven before dinner. After her shower, she came downstairs, long hair dripping down her back. She held up […]

Stepmom and step daughter lying on the floor smiling

Stepfamily playing in the park

Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that’s probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led […]