Monthly Archives: July 2016


Missing the Firsts but Saving the Best for Last

I used to be bothered by the fact, that I missed out on all of my husband’s firsts. I couldn’t be his first wedding, first marriage, first wife; we didn’t buy our first house together, nor have our first babies together. A mindset shift was necessary. My husband’s ex-wife once […]

Couple holding hands

Stepdad reading to stepchildren

Showing Affection to Step Kids

Affection can be shown in ways other than hugs and kisses. After being a step dad for thirteen years, it didn’t feel odd at all to welcome my wife’s sixteen year old niece into our home. My step kids are grown and out of the house and the two kids […]


7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – PART 2

PART 2 4. Forgiveness Forgiveness is a voluntary process to let go of negative feelings or bitterness.  The key here is the word VOLUNTARY. It’s your choice and chore to let go of offenses against you and move on.  This constitutes change in you personally and change is something most […]

Couple smiling

Couple smiling

7 Qualities that will Transition you from a Boundaryless to a Peaceful and Happy Marriage – Part 1

When I divorced from my ex over eight years ago I knew I wanted to remarry.  I desired companionship and closeness with another individual.  But, I had certain “qualifications” that I was looking for in a new partner.  One “qualification” was that he would have children.  A man with children […]


AN INTERVIEW: A Mom and Stepmom Discuss their Friendship

“We are the best of friends” Shelby Hilliard is mom to a daughter, and a stepmom to Latisa Valdez’s four children. Over the years, their relationship has blossomed into best friend status; however, they admit that it wasn’t always easy. Below, these moms discuss where it all began; what the […]

Shelby & Latisa