Why My Stepmomming is Different to My Momming

Someone said to me a few months ago; ‘I catch glimpses of myself, which is nice’ as we discussed family life and how it’s possible to be so absorbed in it you can fade away, almost entirely. The sentiment of this rang true and I felt uneasy having settled for […]

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When Old Wounds Start Weeping…

This is a post I wrote over a year ago. I thought it would be interesting to revisit it and share it with a wider audience. Since I wrote this I have become even more aware of the role old wounds play in creating conflict in our current relationships. It’s […]


Is It Time to Leave?

The number of second marriages that end is about 70%. It’s a shocking statistic. It also gives some context as to why this step-family journey can feel so challenging and fraught. It is hard. It is harder than two single people without children building a family together. It takes work […]

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Dignity & Integrity in Boundaries

Living a miserable life provided me with no motivation to set boundaries. Having boundaries meant forcing myself to focus only on what I had control over and release concern over anything I had no control over. Focusing on improving myself while allowing others to suffer the consequences of their behavior […]


Is My Relationship Broken Beyond Repair?

We have some dining chairs that have seen better days. I’ve spent months trying to justify replacing them with something new and fancy. Between my scrooge-like and greenie tendencies, buying new chairs when we have perfectly serviceable ones is a hard sell. Too hard, it seems. So I decided that […]

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