You Don’t Have To Call Me Mom   Featured Today!

So many moments, events, and relationships in this world seem to require labels or categories. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you having fun? Are you single? Are you married? Are you a mom? It’s natural for people to want to make sense of the world by labeling the people, […]

Stepmom & Stepson

Pensive Stepmom

Stepping Above the Drama of His Ex

Being a stepmom in a newly blended family has been the hardest task of my life. For me, the most challenging part has been learning how to deal with my husband’s ex and controlling my feelings towards her actions. But, before I get started, I don’t have a feel-good relationship […]


The Accidental Stepmom

When I was a little girl, I daydreamed about what my life would be like as an adult. I imagined living somewhere interesting and in a large, beautiful home. I also imagined that I would have a house full of children, perhaps eight of them, and we would have a […]

Pensive Stepmom

Teenage girl not listening to stepmom

How to Live with People Who Hate You

I fell in love with and married a man who has six children. That’s right – his six plus my two make a family of ten, one loud dog and a few neglected fish. The kids range in age from nine to twenty-two. When we add in a few boyfriends, […]


The Metaphor That Changed My Entire Perspective on the Stepmom Role

I was in a really bad place. The slightest mention of the family he had before me sent me into turmoil and agony. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t come first. Why I couldn’t be his only. I loved his daughter, and logically, I understood that without his first wife, […]

Pensive Stepmom

Happy Couple Sitting on the Couch

10 Tips for Healthy Stepcoupling

Marriage is tough stuff. It takes intentional work to keep the fire that brought you together burning. There will be many times when the fires burn bright and strong and there will be many times when the embers are barely visible or felt. Re-marriage adds extra layers of complications and […]